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  • JRBL03
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I hear that too. I've had postnatal thyroiditis after each baby-- but it's helped knowing what to expect, how to treat it, and that it's not the same every-single-time. A few times I didn't even have to be medicated: I ate two Brazil nuts a day, and used lemongrass oil on my big toes/throat. My levels came back up in record time, without meds. I'm still in shock. I also did placenta encapsulation this last time, expecting nothing to happen. Oh my. No post-partum blues or anxiety of any kind, my hormones leveled out super fast, I healed so much faster, and my milk supply was the best ever! PS: I tore with #1 and #8, but nobody else... And they weren't even my biggest babies. Weird, right? So just because you tore once, doesn't mean you will again.

I'm praying for you!
Jen- Momma to 10 precious little ones~

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Fascinating Jennie! Thank you so much for sharing! 😀

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I hear that too. I've had postnatal thyroiditis after each baby-- but it's helped knowing what to expect, how to treat it, and that it's not the same every-single-time. A few times I didn't even have to be medicated: I ate two Brazil nuts a day, and used lemongrass oil on my big toes/throat. My levels came back up in record time, without meds. I'm still in shock. I also did placenta encapsulation this last time, expecting nothing to happen. Oh my. No post-partum blues or anxiety of any kind, my hormones leveled out super fast, I healed so much faster, and my milk supply was the best ever! PS: I tore with #1 and #8, but nobody else... And they weren't even my biggest babies. Weird, right? So just because you tore once, doesn't mean you will again.

I'm praying for you!

Jennie, I'm just now seeing this post!  I love reading about natural remedies that actually work!  How amazing!!!  :claploud:  I'm so glad you shared this!!!   :happyhug:


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Ugh... I hate this ride. I think I'm getting off. It's just too gut wrenching.

I ended up cancelling the specialist appt in Feb because I was too busy with report card writing, etc. and although I rescheduled for June, I may just cancel again after my conversation with dh today.
I asked what it would take for us to have #2 and his take on it is that we shouldn't have any more cause it's overwhelming for me to work and have kids. We don't have enough support around us for when ds is sick and we need to go to work, I never have enough time to get my work done, and I'm constantly stressed about not having dishes and laundry done. According to dh. I, on the other hand, thought I'd adjusted quite well to the new demands put on me. And am looking forward to having a job closer to home next year, which will again make a difference. But he's against #2 (You want to replace Jacob? he says) so I told him we need to clean the house out of all the baby stuff I've hung on to in hopes of having another one. We can give away the toys, the Jolly Jumper, baby bathtub, etc. and sell his crib since we're planning on getting ds a big boy bed soon. I don't want any of it around to remind me of what was and so I can focus on watching ds grow up. He didn't really reply to that train of thought, but when we get home today I'm going to start the process so he sees I'm serious. Not to force his hand! I just know that if I'm going to submit to this, I can't be seeing all that stuff and not be resentful. Dear Jesus help me.

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Sarah, I know I've asked you this before in another thread someplace else.  Do you absolutely have to work?  Husbands feel responsible for our wellbeing and the stability of their households.  I think it can affect them deeply when they see us harried and stressed, even if it doesn't happen very often.

  I've said this before to you but, though I'm an over-the-top organized person and am good at managing a home while raising kids, I don't believe for a moment that I could do it and maintain my peace if I also worked outside the home.  It'd be too much for me.  It sounds like you're doing well balancing work and home life, but I'm sure that when your hubby sees you stressed during those rougher times, he can't imagine adding anything to your plate.  I can't help but think if there's any way you could stay home with your babe(s) and focus completely on managing your home and raising littles, the stress of being divided wouldn't be there. 

Lots of working moms have felt they couldn't afford to quit working, but once they began seeking the Lord for a way to make it happen, the Lord has opened doors and made it possible.  If it's a desire of your heart, I'd pray that way.  I don't know your hubby but I know mine feels secure knowing i'm home safe taking care of the home and his kids.  The value of that is higher than a paycheck.  :heartbeat:

P.S. Sometimes men are slower to see things.  Your hubby might be wrong about some things.  Don't stop praying and going after what you feel in your heart is right. You won't feel peace if you try to bury it, and you don't want resentment to settle in, either.   :hug:


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Thank you Joy.
I posted yesterday in the heat of the moment and have a little more clarity now. I'm not quite sure what God wants me to ask for (another child? Dh's heart to change? Mine to change? Other?) but I know I'm to ask Him and not to stop asking. So I'll keep talking to Him about who He wants me to be. That's the most important thing in life, after all.
We have a young single mom in our church whose baby needs clothes, so I agreed to give her ds's to look through. I couldn't remember what size her son was and which baby clothes I'd stored in which container, so I opened 2 to make sure they wouldn't be too small etc... And I freaked out. Just a little. Not too badly. Seeing all the little onesies ds wore when he was first born, the ones I bought for him while still pregnant and so unsure of what I was doing, I panicked thinking I'd never see them again. So dh could tell it was too much for me and agreed to ask her to return to us whatever she couldn't use from that bin. I feel good knowing we're helping someone who really needs the stuff, but it was such a trigger today. Dh also said we can afford to get more if we ever have another baby, which I found very kind of him.
Sorry to take you all on this roller coaster with me. I guess I just need(ed) somewhere to vent. AF likely comes tomorrow so I'm a basket case today. Lol

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Hey Trip! Thinking of you <3

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Things were pretty calm around here the last few months... And then my thyroid started acting up again! So I'm back to square one with hyperthyroidism, but my specialist says it's not Graves disease, just sub-acute thyroiditis. I'm aching to ttc, but know it wouldn't be a good idea right now cause hyperthyroidism at my levels can cause miscarriages. Sigh.
I've been under lots of stress lately with potentially changing ds's care giver, a job interview for a teaching position closer to home (yay!), and my heightened emotional state due to my thyroid. At least this time I don't have a newborn I'm also caring for!
We're going on a cruise in March to an area that is known to have the Zika virus, so my fertility clinic won't see us for 6 months after we get back, just to make sure I don't pass it on if I get pregnant. So next September is looking like our earliest chance! If I can get my thyroid under control by then. I'm praying for God's will to be done in all of this!

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Awe, gal. I'm so sorry you guys don't get to hop on the TTC wagon right away. :( But your reasons are logical and understandable. I'm praying for your thyroid hun, and praying God blesses your family! Big, giant hugs!
Jen- Momma to 10 precious little ones~

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Awe, gal. I'm so sorry you guys don't get to hop on the TTC wagon right away. :( But your reasons are logical and understandable. I'm praying for your thyroid hun, and praying God blesses your family! Big, giant hugs!

Dittoing this, sweet Sarah!  :hug: :heart:


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